If you are a non-custodial parent, visitation can feel like a way for your ex-spouse to punish you. However, it is an essential time to bond with your children, despite any negative feelings you and your ex may have for one another.
Instead of looking at visitation as a limited period at the end of which someone takes your children away from you, consider these tips to make it the best experience possible for you and your children.
Sticking to a regular visitation schedule is good for everyone involved, but there are times when scheduling conflicts are unavoidable. In such cases, remaining flexible can reduce the potential for conflict. Remember that the law protects your visitation, but there are situations when it may have to change. Being flexible will help your children know that you are willing to do what it takes to spend time with them.
Divorce can get complicated and it can create negative feelings between divorcing spouses. Any children involved should stay out of any conflicts. That means you should only have positive things to say about their mother or father, regardless of how you really feel about them.
Some parents who have scheduled visitation with their children feel like they need to entertain and amuse them, planning big activities for every visit. However, most children simply want their parents to show interest and involvement in their lives. Spending time talking and catching up is all it takes to create a good relationship.
Child custody can be tricky, but you can make visitation a good experience for you and your children with a positive attitude.