Getting divorced in Pennsylvania means sudden and drastic lifestyle changes. While you may welcome some of these changes with open arms, others may bring feelings of inadequacy or doubt.
Preparing to move on with your life as an independent may seem unsettling at first. However, the faster you embrace your new normal, the better your chances of living a happy and fulfilling life.
Identifying your grief
It is not unusual to grieve the loss of your relationship. Even unhealthy relationships can provide a sense of security. According to Brides.com, some of the common reasons you may grieve your divorce include the following:
- You still feel attached to your spouse
- You need to navigate uncomfortable lifestyle changes
- You mourn the loss of companionship
Finding solace and comfort
Identifying the reason for your grief can help you pinpoint what you need to do to heal. Even though you may feel alone, you can reach out to others for support and encouragement. Your community may have a support group you can join and participate in. Therapy or counseling can help you process your emotions and learn healthy ways of coping.
Embrace your independence and set new, healthy boundaries for yourself and future relationships. Focus on other areas of your life including building your career, raising your children or developing a new hobby. Set goals for yourself and make plans to achieve them. As you accomplish your goals, celebrate how far you have come. With time, support and a positive attitude, you may gradually find that your grief disappears and your life as an independent person gets better.
